Morning routine idea!
True. I'm not at the stage where I'm getting Jax ready to go to school, but it will happen before I know it. Sniff sniff.
I came across this sweet idea on the CBC parents website and thought I would share with you.
It even has a link to the printable labels needed!
With this simple idea, kids can keep track of their morning routine tasks as they go along. The tasks can be customized according to your family needs, or what tasks your child may need reminders of. Getting them to create the sticks with you will help them take ownership and help them "buy in".
Just another idea to add to the large parental toolbox 😊.
Please enjoy this article! Some great reminders/gems hidden here! Love the quote at the end.
Posted on: November 20th, 2013 by Dr. Darla Clayton, Psy.D.
Cerebral palsy, autism, cognitive disabilities, speech and language difficulties the list could go on. These disabilities may not be as visible to onlookers as others.
These less visible disabilities have some unique challenges. The biggest impasse can be the expectations that others have towards those affected by them and the unrealistic assumptions people sometimes make.
The Challenges They Face
Many children affected by these disabilities have behavioral, cognitive and motor challenges. Meltdowns and sensory complications are a part of daily life for many families.
Often people out in the community are less accepting of these children, because the origin for the difficult behaviors is not always obvious.
Our family has tried every behavior management method recommended by the experts. While our son’s behavior has improved, challenges do continue to rear their nasty heads. There are some triggers, such as homework and plans that change at the last minute, but at other times meltdowns seem to crop up out of nowhere.
It wasn’t long ago that three-hour meltdowns, without an apparent trigger, were a typical occurrence in our home, or even worse in the community. I recall a particular meltdown while we were shopping. As I was struggling to control my child I couldn’t help but over hear the people in the next aisle. They were frankly discussing my child’s behavior and critiquing my poor parenting skills. Bashing me and my child as if the half-wall of sale items between us was sound proof. I was wishing for a sign that read, “My son had a brain injury; we will excuse your behavior should you injure your brain, so please excuse his.” But no such sign appeared, and I left that store feeling shamed by those destructive words.
Fast forward six years, and things had improved significantly from those darker days. Then out of nowhere, a new stroke hit and we saw an instant, significant regression in emotional regulation difficulties. We are still working our way back from that stroke almost two years ago. With healing and much patience, we will get there in due time.
Managing an 8 yr. old child during a meltdown is even more difficult than a toddler or preschooler, and the looks are even crueler than they used to be.
Besides the behavioral challenges, many of these children process information differently than their peers. This can also be difficult for people to understand and take seriously, since these kids often look so typical, the expectation is that they can think and process information in the same way as other children.
My son is bright but has very slow processing speed. He can understand the work, but it will take him longer to think through problems and conceptualize information than most kids in his class. When you ask him a question, he needs a few extra moments to respond. You can’t mistake his initial silence for ignorance.
After some time, when he has formulated a response, he may interrupt what everyone else has moved on to in order to share it. In fact anytime he gets a flow of information he feels he needs to share, he may interrupt you to get it out. A rude child, impulsive and demanding, you might assume. In reality, he knows he will forget that thought almost as soon as it comes into his head.
He knows that the window to get it out is short and if he waits for an appropriate time to chime in, the thought will be lost.
When the karate instructor is talking to the group, my son is working incredibly hard to process the information, convince his body to cooperate and perform the moves. He spends most of the class a few moves behind, constantly trying to keep up. Any extra encouragement or reminders from the well-intentioned instructors means more information to process.
When my son is doing something and we need to tell him to stop, it’s usually too late by the time he processes what’s being said to him. He is constantly getting sniped at for not listening; in reality, he just didn’t process the information in time to respond. This causes an unbelievable amount of frustration for him, and it’s pretty frustrating for us too. There are times we miss the boat and get angry with him for behaviors outside of his control. There are also times when extended family, friends, or coworkers assume he’s simply being obstinate when he doesn’t respond immediately. Being judged a bad parent by strangers is a miserable moment, but the same judgment from people you care about stings far worse. Partly because we want so badly for them to understand.
There are a few things you should keep in mind the next time you see a child misbehaving. Ask yourself these questions before making snap judgments.
When you see a child struggling to understand your instructions or questions, or otherwise having a difficult time, please keep these simple things in mind.
John Watson once said: “Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.” Imagine what a wonderful world we would live in if everyone we met followed that advice? Let the wonderful start with you!
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Optimistic Parenting: Hope and Help for You and Your Challenging Child - by V. Mark Durand, Ph.D. The author looks not only on the child with challenges but throughout the book parents and other caregivers will feel included. Not only included but on center stage, because Dr. Durand believes before a child can be helped, the caregiver’s thoughts and feelings have to be addressed. You will learn of promising, innovative approaches that emphasize the POSITIVE. Punishment is avoided. The goal is to teach skills to children that help them cope and teach skills to parents to get them on their way to a happier and more fulfilling life. Parents will learn effective behavior management strategies sprinkled with gentle humor from a highly regarded expert and a parent himself. Review
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Happy Mealtimes with Happy Kids: How to Teach Your Child About the Joy of Food! Practical and Surprising Tips from a Pediatric Feeding Specialist -by Melanie Potock, MA, CCC –SLP Melanie Potock is a speech language pathologist, a feeding specialist, and a mom herself. Melanie wrote this helpful, easy-to-read guidebook filled with parenting tips for busy parents in mind. When you turn the last page, you will surely be motivated and have the knowhow to make your family mealtimes happier ones. Her advice is educational, functional and fun! Her twelve years’ experience in the field shows through by the different coping strategies she offers. She wisely counsels to seek professional help for serious eating issues. Review
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Books Especially for Educators and Other Caregivers
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The Behavior Code: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Teaching the Most Challenging Students -by Jessica Minahan, a board-certified behavior analyst (BCBA) and special educator and Nancy Rappaport, MD ~ This book needs to be read by all teachers, counselors, administrators, and parents! The authors focus on the four most challenging students in our classrooms: students with anxiety-related, oppositional, withdrawn, and sexualized behaviors. The book concentrates on strategies for the K-6 grade levels …but it is GOOD for all parents and teachers! This book will be popular with school personnel and parents because of its practical, doable solutions for children with behavioral challenges. Instead of dedicating time in a reactive, unproductive way with our students and children with challenging behaviors, the authors’ strategies are to put that time into proactive, productive ways to reduce the problem behaviors over time. Review
Engaging with Nature to Combat Anxiety, Promote Sensory Integration and Build Social Skills -by Natasha Etherington, a horticultural therapist. The author says she was inspired to write this book for teachers, school counsellors, support assistants, and parents regardless of their horticultural know-how. She feels that a horticultural therapy programme offers benefits not available in an indoor classroom. Ms. Etherington does a fine job of convincing her readers that not only do the children with special needs benefit from gardening but so do their peers, caregivers and educators. Gardening is motivational for the child and is great for the mental health of all involved. An added bonus for the adults is that gardening side by side with a child will show you a different side of his personality and increase positive behaviors. For parents, they can build lasting memories from sharing this gardening experience with their child. Review
Books on Mental Illness and Benefits of Therapy
Defying Mental Illness: Finding Recovery with Community Resources and Family Support -by Paul Komarek & Andrea Schroer A guide book to recovery from mental illness. It is simply written for all families, friends or the individuals themselves who are looking for advice about the steps to take when mental illness is taking all they have… zest for life, relationships, friendships, career, and a happy childhood and school years. Families and friends have a role in the recovery process and this book has essential information to help people with symptoms and family members collaborate and support each other. Review (This review is of based on their first edition of 2010. Congratulations on their 2013 second edition!)
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Wonderful Book on Tourette Syndrome
Nix Your Tics! Eliminate Unwanted Tic Symptoms: A How-To Guide For Young People -by Dr. Duncan McKinlay This is the self-help book parents and youth coping with Tourette syndrome must have. Dr. McKinlay, the psychologist with Tourette himself, is the perfect mentor for all these families looking for guidance about all things Tourette! He discribes the purpose of his book as a book to help young people learn to stop bothersome tics and twitches (such as those found in Tourette Syndrome) and other nervous habits. His book shares management techniques, teaches behavioral treatments (habit reversal training, CBIT), fosters a positive attitude, and provides hope. Review
Terrific Book on Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)
Unthinkable: A Mother’s Tragedy, Terror and Triumph through a Child’s Traumatic Brain Injury -by Dixie Fremont-Smith Coskie, a mother of 8 children Dixie pours out her heart in a memoir revealing her raw emotions and her family’s fight to bring back their son, Paul, to his former self. The author lets us in her most private thoughts; we feel her fear, her anger, and her interior struggle with God’s will about life or death. Above all we learn valuable lessons we can store to bring out when our lives are shattered. The reader should never take life for granted after reading Unthinkable. The accident is not the story, the aftermath to it is. And what a story! The severe trauma to his head leaves Paul clinging to life, two months in a coma followed by almost five months in a rehabilitation hospital. We witness how her family moves on and the lessons learned from this life changing experience as Paul’s sibling go out into the world.Review
Book on Adopting or Fostering a Child from a Traumatized Background
Adopting a Child with Trauma & Attachment Disruption History: A Practical Guide- by Theresa Ann Fraser, C.Y.W, M.A., C.P.T. with a foreword by William E. Krill, LPC. Adoptive and foster parents have a generous, loving heart. Parents who love and bring up a child who is not their own have always held my high esteem. If you plan on going up a notch and are considering adopting or fostering a child from a traumatized background read this booklet first. The author uses case studies that help the reader understand the challenges that have to be overcome. Readers will appreciate her thirteenQuestions Parents Should Ask and Discuss prior to the new child joining the family. The author also includes two full pages of links to resources and web resources. Review