True. I'm not at the stage where I'm getting Jax ready to go to school, but it will happen before I know it. Sniff sniff.
I came across this sweet idea on the CBC parents website and thought I would share with you.
It even has a link to the printable labels needed!
With this simple idea, kids can keep track of their morning routine tasks as they go along. The tasks can be customized according to your family needs, or what tasks your child may need reminders of. Getting them to create the sticks with you will help them take ownership and help them "buy in".
Just another idea to add to the large parental toolbox 😊.
With mindfulness the buzz word of the moment, colouring in is an easy way to calm the mind and occupy the hands. Speaking at a mental health workshop in 2009, author, speaker and communication expert Mark Robert Waldman explained that active meditation focuses attention on simple tasks that require repetitive motion. Concentrating this way replaces negative thoughts and creates a state of peace, and many people who have a difficult time with concentrative meditation can find this easier. This gentle activity where you choose the colours to create your picture and the repetitive action of colouring it in focuses the brain on the present, blocking out any intrusive thoughts.
Here's a couple links to get you started!
I love the line: "I don't know what to say right now... I am just so glad that you told me..."
Please enjoy this article! Some great reminders/gems hidden here! Love the quote at the end.
Posted on: November 20th, 2013 by Dr. Darla Clayton, Psy.D.
Cerebral palsy, autism, cognitive disabilities, speech and language difficulties the list could go on. These disabilities may not be as visible to onlookers as others.
These less visible disabilities have some unique challenges. The biggest impasse can be the expectations that others have towards those affected by them and the unrealistic assumptions people sometimes make.
The Challenges They Face
Many children affected by these disabilities have behavioral, cognitive and motor challenges. Meltdowns and sensory complications are a part of daily life for many families.
Often people out in the community are less accepting of these children, because the origin for the difficult behaviors is not always obvious.
Our family has tried every behavior management method recommended by the experts. While our son’s behavior has improved, challenges do continue to rear their nasty heads. There are some triggers, such as homework and plans that change at the last minute, but at other times meltdowns seem to crop up out of nowhere.
It wasn’t long ago that three-hour meltdowns, without an apparent trigger, were a typical occurrence in our home, or even worse in the community. I recall a particular meltdown while we were shopping. As I was struggling to control my child I couldn’t help but over hear the people in the next aisle. They were frankly discussing my child’s behavior and critiquing my poor parenting skills. Bashing me and my child as if the half-wall of sale items between us was sound proof. I was wishing for a sign that read, “My son had a brain injury; we will excuse your behavior should you injure your brain, so please excuse his.” But no such sign appeared, and I left that store feeling shamed by those destructive words.
Fast forward six years, and things had improved significantly from those darker days. Then out of nowhere, a new stroke hit and we saw an instant, significant regression in emotional regulation difficulties. We are still working our way back from that stroke almost two years ago. With healing and much patience, we will get there in due time.
Managing an 8 yr. old child during a meltdown is even more difficult than a toddler or preschooler, and the looks are even crueler than they used to be.
Besides the behavioral challenges, many of these children process information differently than their peers. This can also be difficult for people to understand and take seriously, since these kids often look so typical, the expectation is that they can think and process information in the same way as other children.
My son is bright but has very slow processing speed. He can understand the work, but it will take him longer to think through problems and conceptualize information than most kids in his class. When you ask him a question, he needs a few extra moments to respond. You can’t mistake his initial silence for ignorance.
After some time, when he has formulated a response, he may interrupt what everyone else has moved on to in order to share it. In fact anytime he gets a flow of information he feels he needs to share, he may interrupt you to get it out. A rude child, impulsive and demanding, you might assume. In reality, he knows he will forget that thought almost as soon as it comes into his head.
He knows that the window to get it out is short and if he waits for an appropriate time to chime in, the thought will be lost.
When the karate instructor is talking to the group, my son is working incredibly hard to process the information, convince his body to cooperate and perform the moves. He spends most of the class a few moves behind, constantly trying to keep up. Any extra encouragement or reminders from the well-intentioned instructors means more information to process.
When my son is doing something and we need to tell him to stop, it’s usually too late by the time he processes what’s being said to him. He is constantly getting sniped at for not listening; in reality, he just didn’t process the information in time to respond. This causes an unbelievable amount of frustration for him, and it’s pretty frustrating for us too. There are times we miss the boat and get angry with him for behaviors outside of his control. There are also times when extended family, friends, or coworkers assume he’s simply being obstinate when he doesn’t respond immediately. Being judged a bad parent by strangers is a miserable moment, but the same judgment from people you care about stings far worse. Partly because we want so badly for them to understand.
There are a few things you should keep in mind the next time you see a child misbehaving. Ask yourself these questions before making snap judgments.
When you see a child struggling to understand your instructions or questions, or otherwise having a difficult time, please keep these simple things in mind.
John Watson once said: “Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.” Imagine what a wonderful world we would live in if everyone we met followed that advice? Let the wonderful start with you!
This article is part seven of the nine-part series from the Project Happiness curriculum. They are looking at important factors that influence the happiness and social and emotional learning of elementary school age children, helping students learn life skills, manage emotions, and increase empathy.
Videos like these make me jealous of science teachers!
Buttermilk the goat is so excited about life that she just can't contain her bounding enthusiasm!